On an insignificant morning of an insignificant day a family of four arrived at my Santa set. It didn’t begin in any noteworthy way. Dad was present but uninvolved, Mom was very involved, which often is easily interpreted as overbearing tho’ this mom was not. She had put considerable thought into how her children observed all of the traditions of Christmas, least of which is Santa.
She seemed to recognize both the boon to the imagination and childhood fantasy that is Santa, but also the depth of the representation held in the lore of Santa, his goodness and his generosity and selflessness.
Mom, while watching her children meet Santa and getting the traditional Santa photos to keep and mark memories of the development of her young ones, was telling a member of my team about preparing to tell her eight year old the whole truth about Santa as he had begun asking questions that had an obvious outcome and she wanted to be prepared for the eventuality.
I was completely impressed with her foresight, though I learned much of this after her departure.
A bit later that day she and her tribe were walking by to shop at one more store and I called to her and asked if I may speak to her. Dad and the children continued on to a nearby shop and we spoke for a few minutes.
I told her that my staff member had shared her story with me and I admitted that this was a topic that many in the Santa community had put some thought into and I shared some of those thoughts with her.
She had already decided to “let him in on the secret” (though his visit with Santa on this morning was enough to quell any questions this season) which is not only one way of softening the blow but possibly a source of pride to become part of an “adult society”. I suggested that she might take him to a coffee shop to “have the talk” and I gave her a challenge coin, something I picked up mail order, very ornate but inexpensive and suggested that she invite him to invest himself by choosing someone to give a gift to, earning the money for the gift and giving the gift without taking any credit, for that is the way of the true Christmas Spirit.
She thanked me as she was on her way pre-planning a milestone in the life of her son.